“It is better to have
loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
It has been a subject which invites considerably varied
opinions. Some are of the view that the moments of love and courtship are great and unique, and one must enjoy
them, even if they are short and
momentary. whereas on the other hand, there are people who think the pains and
travails of loss of love are severe and difficult to be endured, therefore it
is better not to have loved when it comes to be lost at a stage.
However, an objective
analysis of the subject is needed. The endeared body must be courted and loved
but when man becomes used to it, then it becomes hard to abandon the same. And
when circumstances come which result into the separation of the same, disturbs
the person and leads to abnormalities in certain cases. Which lead people to
the other view.
“Not to have loved at
all.” This state is indeed free of all the tensions and disturbances. One
is free to lead his life in his own way. s/he is not bound by any constraints
and acts as per the dictation of his own sweet will. He is more concerned with
his own affairs, likes and dislikes. In short he lives for his own sake.
In the former case, one’s life is a means to an end, whereas
in the latter the life itself is and end. Here comes the crucial question. What
life, what it after all is meant for? A better demonstration of the life can be
found in the former case.
Life is the sum total of miseries and merry, and the experience
one learns therefrom. “loved and lost”
indeed gives better experience, and teaches the ways of living. One is made
familiar to human nature, the consistencies and inconsistencies pertaining
thereto. The experience of “loss” makes man attentive and considerate all the
times. There is no denying the fact that love must be perennial and
long-lasting, but at the same time is not a good course not love at all simple
due the fear of losing it.
